When Will You Quit Pornography?

That’s the question God asked me many years ago.  At the time I was choosing to ignore his voice and believe the lies of the enemy.

Lies like....

“It’s not hurting anyone”--(LIE.   It’s hurting you and your wife, or future wife, and your children.  Secrets kill.  Fantasy sex creates a messed up view of the real thing). 

“It’s just a private thing, it doesn’t affect me spiritually” —(LIE.  It undermines intimacy between you and God.  You know in your heart he condemns it).

“God created beauty to be enjoyed” —(LIE.  Very clever, but no, some beauty is not for you).

“When it really starts affecting my life I’ll quit” —(LIE.  The words of a slave who is trying to convince himself he’s free).

“This is the last time” —(LIE.  That feeling of revulsion and self-loathing ebbs away sooner than you think).

About eight and a half years ago God was gracious to me—my wife found me out.  The thing that brought me to repentance and has enabled me to stay away from porn for 8 ½ years was the wounded look in her eyes and the shock and confusion in the faces of our children.  Never again.

I’m troubled by the number of men who follow Christ in many areas of their life and yet do not renounce pornography, or can’t seem to break free.   Many men have struggled with it for so long that they can’t imagine life without it.   How can God bless that?

Let’s reject the justifications and half-hearted attempts to get control.  Some of you reading this may need to get rid of your computer and the data plan with your phone.  At least get some filtering or reporting software (by the way—if you know the password, the software is useless).

More importantly we need to address the boredom, loneliness, anger, depression, fear, woundedness etc. that drive us to use porn as an emotional narcotic.  “More than Conquerors” or “Celebrate Recovery”  or private counseling can help you in those areas.

If anyone reading this is ready to be free please get in touch.

Brian